A Modest Gay Marriage Proposal

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Gay marriage was defeated by popular vote in Maine this week, delivering the cause a stunning roundhouse punch right in the Guccis.   I, for one, have spent this week marinating in a dark concoction of vinegary frustration and venomous fury to the point that if I were to be tossed onto a grill and parcelled out on paper plates, I have enough taint to inflict at least 20 serious tummy aches at a church picnic.  What happened in Maine pisses me off  for 2 reasons: 1. matters concerning social justice and the individual rights of members of a minority group should never be subject to the mercy of  majority rule, because:  2. majority rule has no mercy.   Going with the conventional wisdom that gay people comprise 10% of the population, it’s obvious that as long as our rights are up to everyone else, we’re pretty much guaranteed jack shit nothing. * I know; I did the math, and yes, the calculator really did swear at me.

So obviously, the Gay Marriage Movement is failing to convince the remaining 90% of the population that inequality and injustice is anyone’s problem but our own.  If Maine and California are the pace cars of this race to kill gay marriage, then it looks like our rights will be in the hands of people who  have strong objections against us at worst, and, at best, have no personal investment in the matter.  After all, if you’re not planning on getting a gay marriage yourself, what would motivate you to support it?  Clearly, the approach of  trying to appeal our fellow Americans’ sense of compassion and fairness isn’t working.  Being an upstanding citizen who contributes to society by working hard, paying taxes, and not dressing my daughter like a lumberjack counts for–wait, let me check my calculator–that’s right: jack shit nothing.   So the Gay Marriage Movement needs to impel the support of the American voting population by stimulating something more compelling than a sense of good will towards people who happen to be different from themselves;  it needs to play to that all-powerful motivating force called self-interest.  In short: we need to make our problem, everyone’s problem.  How do we do this?  We need to ditch the Mr. Nice Gay stuff and go back to what we’re really good at: ruining Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving is such a delicate creature.   It’s the pedigreed poodle of American holidays: each year a new Thanksgiving is born, the immaculately coiffed and stunted offspring bred of untold generations of family tradition and undiluted dysfunction.  And then it is sent hobbling into traffic (i.e. when the guests arrive).  So it really isn’t hard for a gay person to ruin Thanksgiving.   After all, it’s the celebration of the “normal” traditional family.  All a gay person has to do to rattle this pretense and remind everyone that “normal” is just a boring little town in Illinois is, well, show up.  Only the drunks surpass our power to ruin the holiday.  But thanks to internalized homophobia, many of us are drunks, too!

Ruining Thanksgiving is practically a gay tradition.  I remember coming back from college for Thanksgiving break back in 1987, sporting my Dagwood Bumstead-meets-Thompson-Twins haircut, the intensely taciturn way my dad carved the turkey, the worried look on my mom’s face, and the lonesome feeling of being a misunderstood minority within my own family.  Such wonderful memories!  So it’s in the spirit of ’87 that I propose that unless and until gay marriage is a nationwide reality, we make Thanksgiving as uncomfortable as possible.  It may be the only way we can personalize the pain of injustice for those who make the mistake of thinking gay marriage is someone else’s concern.

We’ve been singled out as “others”– outcasts of the mainstream.  This is why we’ve been denied the right to marry, so while we’re being marginalized, let’s give ’em what they want until they beg us to stop.

 Some handy tips for the ladies:

  • Don’t bother hiding your tattoos anymore, particularly the nice big, butchy ones on the biceps and deltoids.  They carry a message of strength and defiance.  They say “I’m an angry feminist!”  Unless they happen to be in the image of the face of Stevie Nicks.
  • If you’re a vegetarian, stop discretely filling your plate with the side dishes and choking back your disgust at the carnage going on right in front of you.   That turkey smells like death, dammit!  Pipe up and say so!
  • Don’t let your relatives refer to your female companion (whom you damn well best be bringing to the festivities) as your “friend”.  Loudly insist on “lady-love” and nothing less!

    And for the gentlemen:

  • Spare no critique regarding interior design and fashion.  Scream if necessary.
  • Join the menfolk in the living room to watch the “big game”.  Ask lots and lots of questions.  Refer to all the players as “she” and “her”.
  • Bring your knitting.  Even if you don’t knit, pretend to knit.  I have it on good authority that seeing a dude knitting really shakes up the squares.

For supportive straight people who want to be part of the fun:

  • Broaden the horizons of the table talk.  Some examples:  “Grandma, I’ve always thought that cranberry sauce was the gayest of Thanksgiving foods, have you seen Brokeback Mountain?”, and “That turkey is stuffed tighter than Adam Lambert’s pants!  You go, turkey!”

For everyone::

  • Don’t forget our mission; don’t let anyone else forget, either.  When it’s time to give thanks, some variation on the following will make your point: “I’m thankful that I live in a country where ‘No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States…nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.’  Oh, wait!  No, I don’t!  And I guess I won’t until Gay Marriage is a reality.  Amen!”

If I can’t inspire you to ruin Thanksgiving in the name of social justice, then let Jeannette Saucier, 71, of Topsham, Maine, inspire you as she did me.  When I first read her statement “It’s not that I feel bigoted to gay people. We have gay people in my own family, but I don’t see them having to be married to prove a point,” I knew something had to be done to prove my “point” that Gay Americans are Americans and human beings deserving of their rights as citizens and members of the human race.  Until this is recognized, we cannot let go or give up.

They may be able to take the right to marry from us right now, but they’ll never take away the power of  “Grandpa, pass the gravy; I’m gay!”
EllenWTF
*Looking at the voting results in California (52.47% in favor of a gay marriage ban and 47.53% opposed) and Maine (53%  in favor of the ban and 47% opposed), you can see that while the numbers showing support for gay marriage are signifigantly higher than 10%, the result is still the same: jack shit nothing.
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10 Responses to “A Modest Gay Marriage Proposal”

  1. Kelly Says:

    I dunno…the bonus dolphins on that Stevie tattoo are so un-butch and peaceful that they make Stevie seem tougher and kind of bloated in comparison, like a mid-career Ann Wilson. (Although who’s to say that this woman, and I hope that she’s not you because if so *beg pardon*, doesn’t already have a similar Ann-with-bonus-barracudas tattoo elsewhere on her body?) Also, what IS the connection between S.N. and dolphins? To me that image is ambiguous, and Real America finds all ambiguity disgusting, so I say flaunting even the Stevie tattoo is a good way to further ruin Thanksgiving.

    Awesome post. Fight the power.

  2. hellraisin Says:

    You may have a point here re: the provocative power of the Sea World Stevie tat. Sadly, I have no such magical anti-tuna net statement etched eternally on my back or elsewhere. I’m holding out for maybe a permanent Leonard Cohen mope with bonus bassett hounds.

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  4. Schnee Says:

    I totally agree. This is a human rights issue, it should never have been the subject of a referendum.
    Oddly, a group of Catholics supported same sex marriage in that State, in defiance of their bishop.
    It is unconscionable today that a group of human beings – with the possible exception of the criminally insane, and they are there to govern us – are denied the same rights as others. It is the shame of any country that allows this ridiculous state to continue, and I can’t believe that there are other human beings who think they have the right to deny others such fundamental rights.
    Our grandparents generation went to war to fight prejudice like this.

  5. Lars Says:

    So… I’ll see you at mum’s for Thanksgiving, then?

  6. fresh wedding proposal Says:

    lol..:) hold my breath to see the picture..nice pose man

  7. Carmelo Gulledge Says:

    Your blog is good! I found it in Google. I will come back really soon. Take care.

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